How-to Deal with Jealousy and Judgment

In response to a question posed in response to my post called Prayer Burdens and Burden Bearing, an Intercessor’s Call, I wanted to take a moment to address how to deal with jealousy and judgement in regards to our giftings. These truths actually hold true in general across the board. The short version is not letting them make their issue yours. 

Unfortunately, it’s too easy for us to take on the thoughts and criticism of others, allowing it to play off our own insecurities, making their issues our own. The key principle here is: you are not responsible for the thoughts and feelings of others, so don’t take on their response to you being obedient to God’s call on your life, but rather – when you become aware of those thoughts and feelings – use them as fodder for prayer for your brothers and sisters in Christ.

You alone are responsible for walking out what God has called you to, this includes not allowing yourself to be discouraged into inaction. Part of your call may include nurturing and growing others, but even so, ultimately their own growth, responses to things, etc. are THEIR responsibility and are between them and God.

In my post How We Judge Success, I talk about the fact that we need to have a paradigm shift from judging based on the accolades of man to judging based on our ability to obey what God has placed before us to do/be. That connects with this issue as well in that if we are focused on our obedience, we will refuse to allow the judgment and jealousies of man to derail us from our successful execution of our call.

That’s not to imply this is easy! I know it is hard and often hurtful to deal with negative reactions from others, but as we shift the way we process their reactions from a place of receiving it personally to instead receive it as information that tells us how we can pray for them or encourage them and then choose to respond in love – that is where breakthrough happens for both of you!

1 Corinthians 12:12-20 (VOICE) 

12 Just as a body is one whole made up of many different parts, and all the different parts comprise the one body, so it is with the Anointed One. 13 We were all ceremonially washed through baptism together into one body by one Spirit. No matter our heritage—Jew or Greek, insider or outsider—no matter our status—oppressed or free—we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Here’s what I mean:the body is not made of one large part but of many different parts. 15 Would it seem right for the foot to cry, “I am not a hand, so I couldn’t be part of this body”? Even if it did, it wouldn’t be any less joined to the body. 16 And what about an ear? If an ear started to whine, “I am not an eye; I shouldn’t be attached to this body,” in all its pouting, it is still part of the body. 17 Imagine the entire body as an eye. How would a giant eye be able to hear? And if the entire body were an ear, how would an ear be able to smell? 18 This is where God comes in. God has meticulously put this body together; He placed each part in the exact place to perform the exact function He wanted. 19 If all members were a single part, where would the body be? 20 So now, many members function within the one body.

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  3. Question…
    New to the journey of intercession and was wondering how we would know the difference between burden for Yah and a thought from Satan?
    I want to make sure I am not entertaining Satan.

    I have found myself saying I wish I wasn’t so compassionate I wish I wasn’t so sensitive because I have been put down and made fun of and walked over because of it.

    • I would encourage you that if you were feeling led to pray, then pray. For how can prayer, which is essentially us aligning with the heart of God, ever be a bad thing? Blessings to you!

    • And for the record, many of us who are wired this way are deeply criticized by people who don’t understand the way that we are created. Being sensitive to the heart of God and those around us is a gift. Make no mistake, there are moments that I wish I wasn’t as sensitive, but I realize that I can’t be sensitive in the good moments and not have to deal with the moments where I wish I wasn’t. Just trusting that God gives us grace for all of it!

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