In honor of our tenth wedding anniversary, I thought I’d pause and share 10 things I love about my husband. These are just a few of the many thing I love about him, they are some of the many reasons I’m looking forward to the next 10 years 😉
So, in no particular order, here are 10 things I love about Allen.
He keeps his own counsel.
Many people might make the mistake of thinking simply because my man can talk that means he can’t keep a confidence, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. The man is a vault. His strength in this area has challenged me to grow in it as well. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate being able to share with him knowing that what I’m sharing is safe.
Anyone who has spent any time with my hubby has experienced an “oops”. I like to tease Allen that he shaves his head because he’s really a blonde! LOL 🙂
We joke about “oops” because it’s Allen’s classic response to something he does that’s boneheaded. This could range from forgetting where he’s going when he’s driving or having to make 5 trips to the kitchen because he keeps forgetting what he’s going in there to get, to breaking something (it doesn’t even need to be fragile, the man is STRONG!) or accidentally knocking something over, or to driving into the frame of the garage. Any of those unintentional occurrences or the many others are “oopses”
I reached a point early in our marriage where I realized I had to decide what I valued more, my stuff or my man. I decided his feelings matter more than anything I own. This has helped me not to place such a high value on “things” and rather to appreciate the joy this man brings to my life… even when he’s breaking a hand-blown heirloom goblet – hey, things happen! Now the oopses are just a part of the laughter that gets added to our everyday life.
Allen has no problem doing things that need to be done that are behind the scenes that no one will ever see or know about but God. Truly, he has the gift of helps. But more than just the gift it’s the fact that he doesn’t feel the need to be recognized for what he does that is something I respect so much.
You see, one of the reasons I admire this trait is that I LIKE recognition more than I should. When I vacuum, if no one notices and comments, I confess it effects how quickly I’ll want to do it again. Horrible I know, but regrettably… true. I’ve grown in this area, but Allen continually sets the bar higher challenging me to continue improving.
This is another area Allen challenges me to improve in. Let’s say I am in a bad mood (trust me, it happens – hormones, ’nuff said). I can completely snap at him and he won’t respond. He’ll have the good sense to know I’m not myself and will extend grace to me. And later when I realize what a jerk I’ve been and come to apologize, he doesn’t rub it in my face, he simply let’s it go.
And it’s not just me he does it for, it’s others too. He’s done it for people who’ve cursed him out and for one who called him the n-word. From my perspective, this is one of his most admirable traits. I’m so grateful the Father gave us to each other so I could have this amazing example.
Not afraid to admit when he’s wrong.
Have you ever met one of those people who will just not ever admit they’ve messed up? Yeah, not my man. He’s not afraid to “own” his mistakes or even ones that aren’t his fault but someone might THINK they’re his fault. He walks in a beautiful humility – especially in this area. And he won’t just admit it to me or whoever the wrong was done to, he’ll admit it to anyone.
Too many church folks try to pretend they’re perfect and NOBODY can live up to that standard, so for folks who don’t know the Father, this only scares them away because they don’t feel like they can meet the expectations. The level of transparency Allen walks in has encouraged many people in their walks of faith.
Ministers to others.
I wish I had a dollar for every time we were in a store and Allen notices someone working looks unhappy and he makes it his personal goal to make them smile. He is a minister of joy (as those who know him will attest to). And he’s good at it too because I’ve rarely seen him unable to brighten someone’s day!
In addition to ministering joy, he also has much wisdom – more than he realizes that’s for sure! Often even he is surprised at the wise counsel that flows from his lips… of course that comes from being a willing vessel too, but I’m getting ahead of myself 😉
Looks so fine.
It would be wrong to make a list like this a not mention the fact that I married a beautiful man who wears his clothes well – that was actually one of the comments my mom made to me after we started dating – that he dressed so well and he looks so sharp in any outfit 🙂
Love his smile. Love his eyes. Love the bald head. Love the Popeye forearms. Love the freckle on his right hand… I’ll stop now, y’all get the idea 😉
Silly and serious… the many sides of Allen.
I love the fact that he can tell a story for 4 hours straight and have no idea it’s been that long and even those who KNOW it’s been that long don’t care because my hubby can tell one heck of a story! I love that he has a tendency to move stuff around in front of him when he talks, and if you move it back where it was – he won’t notice but will move it again… that little trick can go on for hours!
Though my husband can most certainly be silly, he can also be incredibly serious. I’ve listened to him preach many an impassioned, strong word. I love this side of him as much as I love the other. And I love that the Father saw fit to both sides in this one amazing man.
Willing to submit to the Father… even when it costs.
I love my husband’s walk with the Father. We made a decision in 2005 (shortly after Allen’s 180) that we would not do this walk halfway. Whatever the Father wanted us to do, we would do. And wherever He led we would follow. We had NO idea what that decision would mean in a practical sense.
The fact is that following God COSTS. People have judged us, accused us, misunderstood us, etc – yet this man, the head of our household, has not turned back but has held fast to our decision and continued forward as the Father leads trusting that His plans are better than any we could come up with. I have called him a child of hope. There are many things that could cause him to doubt, but yet he has chosen to trust and I have witnessed the cost of that firsthand and have SO much respect and admiration for this man I am yoked to.
The way he leads.
You’ve heard bits of this one along the way. The fact is, Allen leads by example and at the Father’s direction. I love and respect this so much and am SO grateful the Father put us together. I can’t wait to see where He leads us over the next 10 years.
For those who don’t know the story, we almost didn’t make it to 5 years. There were actually folks betting we wouldn’t. And without the Father, we wouldn’t have. If you haven’t read our marriage testimony yet, you may be blessed by it. Seeing how much the Father’s done in the first 10 years only increases my excitement about the ones to come!
Allen, my beloved husband, I am so grateful to be your wife. I love you more than I could begin to say, but here I’ve at least given it a little try. Thank you for who you are and all you do. You are so precious to me. Even with all we’ve been through, if given the choice again, I’d still choose you. I love you 🙂